Category Archives: The Help

Anything to do with professions and others who offer services or any kind of help.

Terror and ill health: the bear truth about childhood adversity

Dr Nadine Harris delivered this stunning TED MED talk in 2014. She gives the bear in the woods an important walk-on part. A paediatrician herself, she tells how a child’s ‘dose’ of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) creates clearly higher rates of health problems. And that’s

Terror and ill health: the bear truth about childhood adversity

Dr Nadine Harris delivered this stunning TED MED talk in 2014. She gives the bear in the woods an important walk-on part. A paediatrician herself, she tells how a child’s ‘dose’ of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) creates clearly higher rates of health problems. And that’s

When Alienation is solved it’s still a problem

Dr Sue Whitcombe, counselling psychologist at Family Psychology Solutions, gives us this case scenario. It’s unusual because you’d think the problem’s been solved. But the solution has ushered in another problem, just as awful. Sue’s original title was: A question of competence? Mental

When Alienation is solved it’s still a problem

Dr Sue Whitcombe, counselling psychologist at Family Psychology Solutions, gives us this case scenario. It’s unusual because you’d think the problem’s been solved. But the solution has ushered in another problem, just as awful. Sue’s original title was: A question of competence? Mental

Briefly, what to do when Parental Alienation gets you

Welcome to the launch of the new Open Minds Foundation website! And, first of all, could you please check and advise on this new very brief guide there: WHAT TO DO ABOUT PARENTAL ALIENATION … as an excluded parent, as an alienated child, and as

Briefly, what to do when Parental Alienation gets you

Welcome to the launch of the new Open Minds Foundation website! And, first of all, could you please check and advise on this new very brief guide there: WHAT TO DO ABOUT PARENTAL ALIENATION … as an excluded parent, as an alienated child, and as

Dismissing alienation: The confessions of a maverick

Now all is revealed!  Through my TEDx talk for University of Edinburgh’s inspiring TEDx team and their ‘It starts with passion’ conference, here’s Nick Child in the flesh and talking about my life and career and major lessons and mistakes – all in

Dismissing alienation: The confessions of a maverick

Now all is revealed!  Through my TEDx talk for University of Edinburgh’s inspiring TEDx team and their ‘It starts with passion’ conference, here’s Nick Child in the flesh and talking about my life and career and major lessons and mistakes – all in

Lifting the lid off Lifton’s list matches harmful coercion in families and cults

Here we like teaming up coercive patterns in families (e.g. domestic abuse, parental alienation) with those outside families (e.g. cults, terrorism, scams). All of them are an alienation experience. Teaming up means we can campaign more powerfully. At first sight, Robert Lifton’s list

Lifting the lid off Lifton’s list matches harmful coercion in families and cults

Here we like teaming up coercive patterns in families (e.g. domestic abuse, parental alienation) with those outside families (e.g. cults, terrorism, scams). All of them are an alienation experience. Teaming up means we can campaign more powerfully. At first sight, Robert Lifton’s list

The BBC delivers: Parental Alienation on mainstream media

Just when you weren’t expecting it, Victoria Derbyshire and Mike Cowan, the hard working reporter, have come up trumps. (No, not that Trump … the pack of cards kind!) On Victoria’s eponymous daily TV news magazine on BBC2 this week (21st Nov 2016), they

The BBC delivers: Parental Alienation on mainstream media

Just when you weren’t expecting it, Victoria Derbyshire and Mike Cowan, the hard working reporter, have come up trumps. (No, not that Trump … the pack of cards kind!) On Victoria’s eponymous daily TV news magazine on BBC2 this week (21st Nov 2016), they

The use and abuse of spooking and phobias

Anxiety is useful. Essential in fact. It’s our radar. It gets us thinking about risks and challenges. It guides us around danger. So don’t get rid of anxiety before you check what it’s telling you. We can be braver when we have

The use and abuse of spooking and phobias

Anxiety is useful. Essential in fact. It’s our radar. It gets us thinking about risks and challenges. It guides us around danger. So don’t get rid of anxiety before you check what it’s telling you. We can be braver when we have

Prisons: where families, alienation and cults meet up

This is a blog-post of two halves. Guest blogger, David Shubert, joins up with yours truly, Nick Child. David’s ideas on prisons chimed in with mine on connecting up coercive patterns aka Undue Influence. But then I realised I’d have to

Prisons: where families, alienation and cults meet up

This is a blog-post of two halves. Guest blogger, David Shubert, joins up with yours truly, Nick Child. David’s ideas on prisons chimed in with mine on connecting up coercive patterns aka Undue Influence. But then I realised I’d have to

Let’s focus on behaviour more than on labels

Welcome to Dr Shelagh Wright as our guest blogger.  Shelagh is a family therapist and family mediator who is also trained in direct child consultation. A simple view is that separating parents put their children’s best interests first by collaborating. Where one or

Let’s focus on behaviour more than on labels

Welcome to Dr Shelagh Wright as our guest blogger.  Shelagh is a family therapist and family mediator who is also trained in direct child consultation. A simple view is that separating parents put their children’s best interests first by collaborating. Where one or

Labels and Alienation

Most people know of a pattern that happens when families separate. That pattern is when one parent turns a child against the other parent without good reason. But, for decades, giving that pattern a short name has caused endless trouble even though labels are meant

Labels and Alienation

Most people know of a pattern that happens when families separate. That pattern is when one parent turns a child against the other parent without good reason. But, for decades, giving that pattern a short name has caused endless trouble even though labels are meant

Gender and Alienation

Inspired by Jennifer Harman and Zeynep Biringen’s work in “Parents Acting Badly”, I have thoroughly refurbished my key overview: Off-putting relationships: the essentials of Child Alienation. The section I’m particularly pleased with is my attempt to climb the Mount Everest topic of gender

Gender and Alienation

Inspired by Jennifer Harman and Zeynep Biringen’s work in “Parents Acting Badly”, I have thoroughly refurbished my key overview: Off-putting relationships: the essentials of Child Alienation. The section I’m particularly pleased with is my attempt to climb the Mount Everest topic of gender

Co-Parenting in a Box … and PA not left out!

‘Co-Parenting in a Box’ is one of hundreds of resources about the ideal solution for all families who separate. That solution is constructive collaboration not high conflict legal dispute. But of course we know that in some families the ideal just ain’t real. CoParenting in a Box is the

Co-Parenting in a Box … and PA not left out!

‘Co-Parenting in a Box’ is one of hundreds of resources about the ideal solution for all families who separate. That solution is constructive collaboration not high conflict legal dispute. But of course we know that in some families the ideal just ain’t real. CoParenting in a Box is the