Category Archives: The Help

Anything to do with professions and others who offer services or any kind of help.

Blood-letting: learning from the past

To trust professions or not to trust them? That is the question. First let’s learn from history. In later posts, I’ll set out the principles that we can apply to institutions that are around us now. In the Marx Brothers film,

Blood-letting: learning from the past

To trust professions or not to trust them? That is the question. First let’s learn from history. In later posts, I’ll set out the principles that we can apply to institutions that are around us now. In the Marx Brothers film,

Prevention: An angel you don’t know for the devil you do

The devil we know ‘Better the devil you know‘ we say. It’s ‘better’ than taking a risk with ‘the devil you don’t know’ who could be even worse. We like the status quo. Evolution tends to select risk-aversion. Attachment is the

Prevention: An angel you don’t know for the devil you do

The devil we know ‘Better the devil you know‘ we say. It’s ‘better’ than taking a risk with ‘the devil you don’t know’ who could be even worse. We like the status quo. Evolution tends to select risk-aversion. Attachment is the

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Change the metaphor > Change the world

This is to announce a small but major change on the alienation experience blog. You didn’t notice any change, did you?! Well the page about how to make the world-wide changes that we need; that’s what’s changed.   The old page

Change the metaphor > Change the world

This is to announce a small but major change on the alienation experience blog. You didn’t notice any change, did you?! Well the page about how to make the world-wide changes that we need; that’s what’s changed.   The old page

For Kids Sake: Ozzy headlines hit harder

The Ozzy headlines that hit harder are about: deaths. Yes deaths. What can we learn about campaigning from one approach based in Australia: For Kids Sake  It proposes a radical view: Family law doesn’t help. It harms the separated families who turn

For Kids Sake: Ozzy headlines hit harder

The Ozzy headlines that hit harder are about: deaths. Yes deaths. What can we learn about campaigning from one approach based in Australia: For Kids Sake  It proposes a radical view: Family law doesn’t help. It harms the separated families who turn

A typewriter cannot juggle – but Cochem can

Like buses, you wait for ages for a conference on Parental Alienation (PA) then in August two came along: Stockholm (Nordic and International) and London (UK and European). Plus USA at both. I went and presented in Sweden. I’ve heard about the

A typewriter cannot juggle – but Cochem can

Like buses, you wait for ages for a conference on Parental Alienation (PA) then in August two came along: Stockholm (Nordic and International) and London (UK and European). Plus USA at both. I went and presented in Sweden. I’ve heard about the

Finding Alienation on a bigger map

People want me to publish my talk in PASG Nordic, Stockholm: Finding PA on a bigger map. I’ve been reluctant: “You can read it here with slides here; I’ve said it all before; I’ll be saying it again; Things have

Finding Alienation on a bigger map

People want me to publish my talk in PASG Nordic, Stockholm: Finding PA on a bigger map. I’ve been reluctant: “You can read it here with slides here; I’ve said it all before; I’ll be saying it again; Things have

Domestic & psychological abuse laws – ancient and modern

Parental Alienation has been increasingly recognised to be one of several patterns of harmful coercive abuse. Based in Scotland in the UK, I’ve wondered about how the new domestic or psychological abuse laws apply to Parental Alienation (PA). The law

Domestic & psychological abuse laws – ancient and modern

Parental Alienation has been increasingly recognised to be one of several patterns of harmful coercive abuse. Based in Scotland in the UK, I’ve wondered about how the new domestic or psychological abuse laws apply to Parental Alienation (PA). The law

The truth is stronger in fiction

You. Must. Read. YOU. By Phil Whitaker. Brilliant, innovative, gripping, hellish, unbelievable truth. YOU is driven by honesty, humanity, compassion and love. A guaranteed page-turner. A story of supernatural hope over terrible experience, of understanding and even forgiveness. I won’t say

The truth is stronger in fiction

You. Must. Read. YOU. By Phil Whitaker. Brilliant, innovative, gripping, hellish, unbelievable truth. YOU is driven by honesty, humanity, compassion and love. A guaranteed page-turner. A story of supernatural hope over terrible experience, of understanding and even forgiveness. I won’t say

A theatre critic’s view of Parental Alienation

For decades those who know the scourge of Parental Alienation have fought but failed to raise serious general awareness in a world that is more intent on ignoring it. Parental Alienation is a very serious reality. So that failure is

A theatre critic’s view of Parental Alienation

For decades those who know the scourge of Parental Alienation have fought but failed to raise serious general awareness in a world that is more intent on ignoring it. Parental Alienation is a very serious reality. So that failure is

The unqualified gap in Scotland’s family law system

The unqualified gap through which children fall in Scotland’s present family law system is about the whole range of separated family patterns that go to family law. The report has a blog-site of its own – The Unqualified Gap. That’s so there

The unqualified gap in Scotland’s family law system

The unqualified gap through which children fall in Scotland’s present family law system is about the whole range of separated family patterns that go to family law. The report has a blog-site of its own – The Unqualified Gap. That’s so there

The abuse of the child’s voice in high conflict separation

Here in Scotland, Relationships Scotland (RS) held an event on the Voice of the Child in Separation and Divorce (June 2017). Professor Jenn McIntosh presented her work. She is a researcher and child inclusive practitioner from Australia. Professionals from a wide range

The abuse of the child’s voice in high conflict separation

Here in Scotland, Relationships Scotland (RS) held an event on the Voice of the Child in Separation and Divorce (June 2017). Professor Jenn McIntosh presented her work. She is a researcher and child inclusive practitioner from Australia. Professionals from a wide range