Category Archives: Personal Stories

Personal or case accounts of any kind focusing on the whole family.

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Why does a coercive controller do it? A very secure Attachment

Responding to the conversation on cults and parental abduction and alienation, a UK parent has summarised her own story of being Alienated from her daughter. Starting the Alienation long before separating from her, her husband kept his daughter close. She

Why does a coercive controller do it? A very secure Attachment

Responding to the conversation on cults and parental abduction and alienation, a UK parent has summarised her own story of being Alienated from her daughter. Starting the Alienation long before separating from her, her husband kept his daughter close. She

Cults and Parental Alienation: A conversation with Steve Hassan

You may know that Steven Hassan is a long-standing cult expert having learned about it when he was in the Moonies as a young man. Steve is energetic and prolific. Read about his BITE model and the Influence Continuum. Watch his

Cults and Parental Alienation: A conversation with Steve Hassan

You may know that Steven Hassan is a long-standing cult expert having learned about it when he was in the Moonies as a young man. Steve is energetic and prolific. Read about his BITE model and the Influence Continuum. Watch his

For Kids Sake: Ozzy headlines hit harder

The Ozzy headlines that hit harder are about: deaths. Yes deaths. What can we learn about campaigning from one approach based in Australia: For Kids Sake  It proposes a radical view: Family law doesn’t help. It harms the separated families who turn

For Kids Sake: Ozzy headlines hit harder

The Ozzy headlines that hit harder are about: deaths. Yes deaths. What can we learn about campaigning from one approach based in Australia: For Kids Sake  It proposes a radical view: Family law doesn’t help. It harms the separated families who turn

Attachment: A safe base to work from

Seventy years ago, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby, came up with Attachment Theory as a good way to describe close relationships in families, how they do or don’t go well. His own childhood was a key influence. Apparently Mrs Bowlby

Attachment: A safe base to work from

Seventy years ago, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby, came up with Attachment Theory as a good way to describe close relationships in families, how they do or don’t go well. His own childhood was a key influence. Apparently Mrs Bowlby

Long ago, judges judged coercion well. So why not now?

Drawing on Jon Atack’s meticulous research and book A Piece of Blue Sky, Russell Miller wrote the authoritative biography of L Ron Hubbard: Bare-Faced Messiah. Hubbard was founder and head of the Church of Scientology. Scientology is perhaps the greatest example of a

Long ago, judges judged coercion well. So why not now?

Drawing on Jon Atack’s meticulous research and book A Piece of Blue Sky, Russell Miller wrote the authoritative biography of L Ron Hubbard: Bare-Faced Messiah. Hubbard was founder and head of the Church of Scientology. Scientology is perhaps the greatest example of a

The truth is stronger in fiction

You. Must. Read. YOU. By Phil Whitaker. Brilliant, innovative, gripping, hellish, unbelievable truth. YOU is driven by honesty, humanity, compassion and love. A guaranteed page-turner. A story of supernatural hope over terrible experience, of understanding and even forgiveness. I won’t say

The truth is stronger in fiction

You. Must. Read. YOU. By Phil Whitaker. Brilliant, innovative, gripping, hellish, unbelievable truth. YOU is driven by honesty, humanity, compassion and love. A guaranteed page-turner. A story of supernatural hope over terrible experience, of understanding and even forgiveness. I won’t say

When Alienation is solved it’s still a problem

Dr Sue Whitcombe, counselling psychologist at Family Psychology Solutions, gives us this case scenario. It’s unusual because you’d think the problem’s been solved. But the solution has ushered in another problem, just as awful. Sue’s original title was: A question of competence? Mental

When Alienation is solved it’s still a problem

Dr Sue Whitcombe, counselling psychologist at Family Psychology Solutions, gives us this case scenario. It’s unusual because you’d think the problem’s been solved. But the solution has ushered in another problem, just as awful. Sue’s original title was: A question of competence? Mental

Dismissing alienation: The confessions of a maverick

Now all is revealed!  Through my TEDx talk for University of Edinburgh’s inspiring TEDx team and their ‘It starts with passion’ conference, here’s Nick Child in the flesh and talking about my life and career and major lessons and mistakes – all in

Dismissing alienation: The confessions of a maverick

Now all is revealed!  Through my TEDx talk for University of Edinburgh’s inspiring TEDx team and their ‘It starts with passion’ conference, here’s Nick Child in the flesh and talking about my life and career and major lessons and mistakes – all in

Amy Baker’s original: Comparing cults and Parental Alienation

Let’s continue to tap into the benefits of taking a broad perspective on all kinds of harmful coercive patterns. Many of those who work with Parental Alienation in families owe a great debt to Amy JL Baker’s research and book: Adult Children of

Amy Baker’s original: Comparing cults and Parental Alienation

Let’s continue to tap into the benefits of taking a broad perspective on all kinds of harmful coercive patterns. Many of those who work with Parental Alienation in families owe a great debt to Amy JL Baker’s research and book: Adult Children of

The BBC delivers: Parental Alienation on mainstream media

Just when you weren’t expecting it, Victoria Derbyshire and Mike Cowan, the hard working reporter, have come up trumps. (No, not that Trump … the pack of cards kind!) On Victoria’s eponymous daily TV news magazine on BBC2 this week (21st Nov 2016), they

The BBC delivers: Parental Alienation on mainstream media

Just when you weren’t expecting it, Victoria Derbyshire and Mike Cowan, the hard working reporter, have come up trumps. (No, not that Trump … the pack of cards kind!) On Victoria’s eponymous daily TV news magazine on BBC2 this week (21st Nov 2016), they

The use and abuse of spooking and phobias

Anxiety is useful. Essential in fact. It’s our radar. It gets us thinking about risks and challenges. It guides us around danger. So don’t get rid of anxiety before you check what it’s telling you. We can be braver when we have

The use and abuse of spooking and phobias

Anxiety is useful. Essential in fact. It’s our radar. It gets us thinking about risks and challenges. It guides us around danger. So don’t get rid of anxiety before you check what it’s telling you. We can be braver when we have