Category Archives: The Families

Anything to do with family members and their experiences – children, parents, extended family, friends.

Prevention: An angel you don’t know for the devil you do

The devil we know ‘Better the devil you know‘ we say. It’s ‘better’ than taking a risk with ‘the devil you don’t know’ who could be even worse. We like the status quo. Evolution tends to select risk-aversion. Attachment is the

Prevention: An angel you don’t know for the devil you do

The devil we know ‘Better the devil you know‘ we say. It’s ‘better’ than taking a risk with ‘the devil you don’t know’ who could be even worse. We like the status quo. Evolution tends to select risk-aversion. Attachment is the

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Why does a coercive controller do it? A very secure Attachment

Responding to the conversation on cults and parental abduction and alienation, a UK parent has summarised her own story of being Alienated from her daughter. Starting the Alienation long before separating from her, her husband kept his daughter close. She

Why does a coercive controller do it? A very secure Attachment

Responding to the conversation on cults and parental abduction and alienation, a UK parent has summarised her own story of being Alienated from her daughter. Starting the Alienation long before separating from her, her husband kept his daughter close. She

Cults and Parental Alienation: A conversation with Steve Hassan

You may know that Steven Hassan is a long-standing cult expert having learned about it when he was in the Moonies as a young man. Steve is energetic and prolific. Read about his BITE model and the Influence Continuum. Watch his

Cults and Parental Alienation: A conversation with Steve Hassan

You may know that Steven Hassan is a long-standing cult expert having learned about it when he was in the Moonies as a young man. Steve is energetic and prolific. Read about his BITE model and the Influence Continuum. Watch his

Change the metaphor > Change the world

This is to announce a small but major change on the alienation experience blog. You didn’t notice any change, did you?! Well the page about how to make the world-wide changes that we need; that’s what’s changed.   The old page

Change the metaphor > Change the world

This is to announce a small but major change on the alienation experience blog. You didn’t notice any change, did you?! Well the page about how to make the world-wide changes that we need; that’s what’s changed.   The old page

For Kids Sake: Ozzy headlines hit harder

The Ozzy headlines that hit harder are about: deaths. Yes deaths. What can we learn about campaigning from one approach based in Australia: For Kids Sake  It proposes a radical view: Family law doesn’t help. It harms the separated families who turn

For Kids Sake: Ozzy headlines hit harder

The Ozzy headlines that hit harder are about: deaths. Yes deaths. What can we learn about campaigning from one approach based in Australia: For Kids Sake  It proposes a radical view: Family law doesn’t help. It harms the separated families who turn

Attachment: A safe base to work from

Seventy years ago, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby, came up with Attachment Theory as a good way to describe close relationships in families, how they do or don’t go well. His own childhood was a key influence. Apparently Mrs Bowlby

Attachment: A safe base to work from

Seventy years ago, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby, came up with Attachment Theory as a good way to describe close relationships in families, how they do or don’t go well. His own childhood was a key influence. Apparently Mrs Bowlby

A typewriter cannot juggle – but Cochem can

Like buses, you wait for ages for a conference on Parental Alienation (PA) then in August two came along: Stockholm (Nordic and International) and London (UK and European). Plus USA at both. I went and presented in Sweden. I’ve heard about the

A typewriter cannot juggle – but Cochem can

Like buses, you wait for ages for a conference on Parental Alienation (PA) then in August two came along: Stockholm (Nordic and International) and London (UK and European). Plus USA at both. I went and presented in Sweden. I’ve heard about the

Finding Alienation on a bigger map

People want me to publish my talk in PASG Nordic, Stockholm: Finding PA on a bigger map. I’ve been reluctant: “You can read it here with slides here; I’ve said it all before; I’ll be saying it again; Things have

Finding Alienation on a bigger map

People want me to publish my talk in PASG Nordic, Stockholm: Finding PA on a bigger map. I’ve been reluctant: “You can read it here with slides here; I’ve said it all before; I’ll be saying it again; Things have

Domestic & psychological abuse laws – ancient and modern

Parental Alienation has been increasingly recognised to be one of several patterns of harmful coercive abuse. Based in Scotland in the UK, I’ve wondered about how the new domestic or psychological abuse laws apply to Parental Alienation (PA). The law

Domestic & psychological abuse laws – ancient and modern

Parental Alienation has been increasingly recognised to be one of several patterns of harmful coercive abuse. Based in Scotland in the UK, I’ve wondered about how the new domestic or psychological abuse laws apply to Parental Alienation (PA). The law

Long ago, judges judged coercion well. So why not now?

Drawing on Jon Atack’s meticulous research and book A Piece of Blue Sky, Russell Miller wrote the authoritative biography of L Ron Hubbard: Bare-Faced Messiah. Hubbard was founder and head of the Church of Scientology. Scientology is perhaps the greatest example of a

Long ago, judges judged coercion well. So why not now?

Drawing on Jon Atack’s meticulous research and book A Piece of Blue Sky, Russell Miller wrote the authoritative biography of L Ron Hubbard: Bare-Faced Messiah. Hubbard was founder and head of the Church of Scientology. Scientology is perhaps the greatest example of a

When is ‘parent-leaving age’?!

School-leaving age In the U.K. and perhaps everywhere, we talk of ‘school leaving age’. That’s an admirably straightforward statement about the law and general expectation that it’s good for children to go to school until they’re 16. Even then in the

When is ‘parent-leaving age’?!

School-leaving age In the U.K. and perhaps everywhere, we talk of ‘school leaving age’. That’s an admirably straightforward statement about the law and general expectation that it’s good for children to go to school until they’re 16. Even then in the