Protecting family ties after separation

During the last decade here in this blog, you’ve been sharing my struggle to understand the nightmare experiences that some children and families experience after family separation. And especially what best to do about that.

Prevention is plainly the best way to go. This short video presentation of mine covers 100 years in 17 minutes!

“Making History Now” includes a self-critical review of my career over the last 50 years. And then we time-travel forwards to imagine what we want to see in place 50 years in the future.

You will see why I’m moving on now to focus more fully on ‘Making History Now” with the help of the Two Wishes Foundation.

I suggest we all now need to do this upstream prevention urgently. See you there!

Download the script of the video here.

About Nick Child

Retired child and family shrink and family therapist living, working and playing in Edinburgh.


  1. Lonely in CT :)

    In a word, Wow! So nice and refreshing to see an intelligent, respected professional address the ego head-on! Doing so is one of the most challenging tasks for all of us imperfect human beings. Thank you, Nick Childs, for showing us it’s never too late, we’re never too smart, and our human capacity for new knowledge and continued growth is truly a lifelong gift. is a wish come true!


    • Thanks, Lonely in CT, for your kind beautiful words. Much appreciated.

      You can tell, perhaps, that I wish my intelligence had worked better much earlier in my career. But I now see how the importance of that first confession – that being in a particular job or profession means we stay in our chosen box rather than break out of it. It’s very widely true. It’s what I was exploring in the blog called “Blood-letting”.

      If one’s name, fame, views, and job have been firmly committed to the one way to think, be and do things, it is really really really difficult to consider and admit that another way is better. Even in this last year, despite being free retired well-off and not formally tied to any viewpoint or organisation, I’ve found it that hard to gently give up those other good causes for my chosen new one. And it’s not as if the previous good causes don’t have lots of worthy and valid things in them that can still play their part.

      For big changes, I think it inevitably takes a really long time – even if we (and in order to) build the intelligent joined-up network that can take things forward.


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