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How can we better inform ourselves and others about this largely ignored pattern in families?

Blood-letting: learning from the past

To trust professions or not to trust them? That is the question. First let’s learn from history. In later posts, I’ll set out the principles that we can apply to institutions that are around us now. In the Marx Brothers film,

Blood-letting: learning from the past

To trust professions or not to trust them? That is the question. First let’s learn from history. In later posts, I’ll set out the principles that we can apply to institutions that are around us now. In the Marx Brothers film,

Prevention: An angel you don’t know for the devil you do

The devil we know ‘Better the devil you know‘ we say. It’s ‘better’ than taking a risk with ‘the devil you don’t know’ who could be even worse. We like the status quo. Evolution tends to select risk-aversion. Attachment is the

Prevention: An angel you don’t know for the devil you do

The devil we know ‘Better the devil you know‘ we say. It’s ‘better’ than taking a risk with ‘the devil you don’t know’ who could be even worse. We like the status quo. Evolution tends to select risk-aversion. Attachment is the

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

Untangling a web – and the thread didn’t break

“Oh what a tangled web we weave …” penned Walter Scott in 1808 about Lord Marmion’s love-life. But he could have typed it in 2008 about the worldwide web and its promiscuous off-spring: social media. That’s a ‘tangled web’ too. With everyone free

A typewriter cannot juggle – but Cochem can

Like buses, you wait for ages for a conference on Parental Alienation (PA) then in August two came along: Stockholm (Nordic and International) and London (UK and European). Plus USA at both. I went and presented in Sweden. I’ve heard about the

A typewriter cannot juggle – but Cochem can

Like buses, you wait for ages for a conference on Parental Alienation (PA) then in August two came along: Stockholm (Nordic and International) and London (UK and European). Plus USA at both. I went and presented in Sweden. I’ve heard about the

Finding Alienation on a bigger map

People want me to publish my talk in PASG Nordic, Stockholm: Finding PA on a bigger map. I’ve been reluctant: “You can read it here with slides here; I’ve said it all before; I’ll be saying it again; Things have

Finding Alienation on a bigger map

People want me to publish my talk in PASG Nordic, Stockholm: Finding PA on a bigger map. I’ve been reluctant: “You can read it here with slides here; I’ve said it all before; I’ll be saying it again; Things have

Domestic & psychological abuse laws – ancient and modern

Parental Alienation has been increasingly recognised to be one of several patterns of harmful coercive abuse. Based in Scotland in the UK, I’ve wondered about how the new domestic or psychological abuse laws apply to Parental Alienation (PA). The law

Domestic & psychological abuse laws – ancient and modern

Parental Alienation has been increasingly recognised to be one of several patterns of harmful coercive abuse. Based in Scotland in the UK, I’ve wondered about how the new domestic or psychological abuse laws apply to Parental Alienation (PA). The law

Alienation: A new clearer big picture

Alienation is the core pattern in a wide range of ‘relationships that take you in and cut you off’ “Bravo! Brilliant!”  This is to announce our new ‘Not sure about alienation?” page. It’s a version of Nick Child’s recent highly

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Alienation: A new clearer big picture

Alienation is the core pattern in a wide range of ‘relationships that take you in and cut you off’ “Bravo! Brilliant!”  This is to announce our new ‘Not sure about alienation?” page. It’s a version of Nick Child’s recent highly

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A theatre critic’s view of Parental Alienation

For decades those who know the scourge of Parental Alienation have fought but failed to raise serious general awareness in a world that is more intent on ignoring it. Parental Alienation is a very serious reality. So that failure is

A theatre critic’s view of Parental Alienation

For decades those who know the scourge of Parental Alienation have fought but failed to raise serious general awareness in a world that is more intent on ignoring it. Parental Alienation is a very serious reality. So that failure is

The unqualified gap in Scotland’s family law system

The unqualified gap through which children fall in Scotland’s present family law system is about the whole range of separated family patterns that go to family law. The report has a blog-site of its own – The Unqualified Gap. That’s so there

The unqualified gap in Scotland’s family law system

The unqualified gap through which children fall in Scotland’s present family law system is about the whole range of separated family patterns that go to family law. The report has a blog-site of its own – The Unqualified Gap. That’s so there

I just can’t dance with Alienation – Some pros and cons of the words we use.

A therapist colleague expressed the discomfort of the vast majority of the helping professions everywhere.  She said: “I just can’t dance with Alienation.” She meant the word and its meaning. For decades, I would also have professed this kind-hearted sentiment.

I just can’t dance with Alienation – Some pros and cons of the words we use.

A therapist colleague expressed the discomfort of the vast majority of the helping professions everywhere.  She said: “I just can’t dance with Alienation.” She meant the word and its meaning. For decades, I would also have professed this kind-hearted sentiment.

Attachment terror: How all harmful coercion works

The field of harmful coercive relationships is huge. It stretches across all kinds of family and other groups. But it is all over the place. No one can have read all the shelves and webpages full of great description. Quantity has to

Attachment terror: How all harmful coercion works

The field of harmful coercive relationships is huge. It stretches across all kinds of family and other groups. But it is all over the place. No one can have read all the shelves and webpages full of great description. Quantity has to

When Alienation is solved it’s still a problem

Dr Sue Whitcombe, counselling psychologist at Family Psychology Solutions, gives us this case scenario. It’s unusual because you’d think the problem’s been solved. But the solution has ushered in another problem, just as awful. Sue’s original title was: A question of competence? Mental

When Alienation is solved it’s still a problem

Dr Sue Whitcombe, counselling psychologist at Family Psychology Solutions, gives us this case scenario. It’s unusual because you’d think the problem’s been solved. But the solution has ushered in another problem, just as awful. Sue’s original title was: A question of competence? Mental