Category Archives: The Help

Anything to do with professions and others who offer services or any kind of help.

The use and abuse of spooking and phobias

Anxiety is useful. Essential in fact. It’s our radar. It gets us thinking about risks and challenges. It guides us around danger. So don’t get rid of anxiety before you check what it’s telling you. We can be braver when we have

The use and abuse of spooking and phobias

Anxiety is useful. Essential in fact. It’s our radar. It gets us thinking about risks and challenges. It guides us around danger. So don’t get rid of anxiety before you check what it’s telling you. We can be braver when we have

Prisons: where families, alienation and cults meet up

This is a blog-post of two halves. Guest blogger, David Shubert, joins up with yours truly, Nick Child. David’s ideas on prisons chimed in with mine on connecting up coercive patterns aka Undue Influence. But then I realised I’d have to

Prisons: where families, alienation and cults meet up

This is a blog-post of two halves. Guest blogger, David Shubert, joins up with yours truly, Nick Child. David’s ideas on prisons chimed in with mine on connecting up coercive patterns aka Undue Influence. But then I realised I’d have to

Let’s focus on behaviour more than on labels

Welcome to Dr Shelagh Wright as our guest blogger.  Shelagh is a family therapist and family mediator who is also trained in direct child consultation. A simple view is that separating parents put their children’s best interests first by collaborating. Where one or

Let’s focus on behaviour more than on labels

Welcome to Dr Shelagh Wright as our guest blogger.  Shelagh is a family therapist and family mediator who is also trained in direct child consultation. A simple view is that separating parents put their children’s best interests first by collaborating. Where one or

Labels and Alienation

Most people know of a pattern that happens when families separate. That pattern is when one parent turns a child against the other parent without good reason. But, for decades, giving that pattern a short name has caused endless trouble even though labels are meant

Labels and Alienation

Most people know of a pattern that happens when families separate. That pattern is when one parent turns a child against the other parent without good reason. But, for decades, giving that pattern a short name has caused endless trouble even though labels are meant

Gender and Alienation

Inspired by Jennifer Harman and Zeynep Biringen’s work in “Parents Acting Badly”, I have thoroughly refurbished my key overview: Off-putting relationships: the essentials of Child Alienation. The section I’m particularly pleased with is my attempt to climb the Mount Everest topic of gender

Gender and Alienation

Inspired by Jennifer Harman and Zeynep Biringen’s work in “Parents Acting Badly”, I have thoroughly refurbished my key overview: Off-putting relationships: the essentials of Child Alienation. The section I’m particularly pleased with is my attempt to climb the Mount Everest topic of gender

Co-Parenting in a Box … and PA not left out!

‘Co-Parenting in a Box’ is one of hundreds of resources about the ideal solution for all families who separate. That solution is constructive collaboration not high conflict legal dispute. But of course we know that in some families the ideal just ain’t real. CoParenting in a Box is the

Co-Parenting in a Box … and PA not left out!

‘Co-Parenting in a Box’ is one of hundreds of resources about the ideal solution for all families who separate. That solution is constructive collaboration not high conflict legal dispute. But of course we know that in some families the ideal just ain’t real. CoParenting in a Box is the

Historic change afoot: winning without the ‘A’ word

After decades of ideological impasse, the major US professional body, the APA, has signalled that an historic change is on its way. Let’s celebrate this long-awaited change and the invisible key that seems to have worked at last. What’s the key?! The

Historic change afoot: winning without the ‘A’ word

After decades of ideological impasse, the major US professional body, the APA, has signalled that an historic change is on its way. Let’s celebrate this long-awaited change and the invisible key that seems to have worked at last. What’s the key?! The