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About ‘the alienation experience’ blog:
- This blog “the alienation experience” is to serve and promote interest in an off-putting pattern of relationships that happens in family and other close groups of people.
- We want to engage you if you are put off this topic. Read more on Not sure about?.
- We want to support and broaden your range of thinking if you are already persuaded.
- We welcome world-wide interest which we hope will particularly benefit us in the UK as we try to get our act together better.
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Where the blog began
This blog started as a virtual version of the presentations and discussions begun at a conference held on 25th Oct 2014 in London on Parental Alienation. Presenters and audience there were multi-disciplinary and included those affected. Click ‘London 2014’ in the menu to retrieve all of the posts about it. Here’s a brief report of the whole day. The organisers were mainly systemic family therapists – AFT London (AFT is the Association for Family Therapy and Systemic Practice in the UK), working with the SSoPA group (Systemic Study of Parental Alienation). Systemic means that all relevant views and people are welcome!
What the blog is about
In the title of the blog, the word “alienation” is chosen – even though it is itself rather off-putting – because it is widely used for this pattern and so it cannot be avoided. The use of “the” means the pattern is real, difficult, and can be seriously harmful. And the word “experience” opens up a wider range of contexts to apply and adapt our thinking to (e.g. family courts and high conflict separations, family life in general, and therapy). “Experience” refers both to the experience of families affected, and to the experience of professionals who help. Peter Marsden-Allen came up with the idea of the more subjective “alienation experience” as some people struggle with PA’s rather concrete quality.
Alienation has many common meanings. For all meanings, the implication is that alienation is not good, that it is something to prevent or repair. This blog focuses on a more specific pattern: One person actively turns another person against a third person when there is no good reason for it – that is, where there had been and could be a good and safe relationship with that third person. Note that the alienation – the being turned away from – happens to the middle person, typically a child. However upset the other parties are in their plight, the favoured and rejected parents, it is the child in the middle who should be everyone’s primary concern.
The most severe and harmful form of the pattern is more accurately called Child Alienation. But the original name Parental Alienation has stuck and we have to use it too – sometimes with “Syndrome” added. This form is typically found in high conflict family separations and family courts. The pure form is distinct and rarer (say 1:100) than the picture of both sides throwing insults and allegations at each other with legal help in the family courts help (say 1:10). Another descriptive name used for the 1 in 10 high conflict cases that includes pure or hybrid alienation is Children Who Resist Post-Separation Contact with a Parent.
In this blog, we encourage the use of capital letters e.g. “Alienation” to refer to the more serious end of the spectrum. Non-capitalised “alienation” is for other less specific contexts. Read more on the spectrum of meanings, ‘a’ ‘A’, here: Not sure about?.
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